tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post4772372970087248471..comments2023-11-03T01:35:45.605-07:00Comments on Fabulous @ 8 pm: No, not foreverE. Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16367356756332023615noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-78513125122558733982007-12-04T11:22:00.000-08:002007-12-04T11:22:00.000-08:00Everyone has said wise things, E.Having been excom...Everyone has said wise things, E.<BR/><BR/>Having been excommunicated by a father-in-law for a time (both J--who is the best son on earth--and me)...and being the oldest daughter trying to hold everyone together...yes, yes, yes, I get this striving and this pain (a little).<BR/><BR/>I am so proud of you for not "picking up this tab." Truly. Keep at it.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10298517565254413222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-32560895527653240102007-11-30T15:25:00.000-08:002007-11-30T15:25:00.000-08:00The staggering lack of self-awareness your father ...The staggering lack of self-awareness your father displays is truly gargantuan. I'm sorry for a few things: Six hours on the phone, a lifetime of abuse, the emotional drain.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Separating from a bio family that is doing you harm is one of the most difficult things to do, but it must be done if you want to live a normal life. (or close to one). YOU have to break the cycle. They never will. It is like cutting off a gangrenous limb. It's agony, but it will kill you if you do not do it.<BR/><BR/><BR/>BUT: Here is what I am SO SO HAPPY ABOUT!<BR/><BR/>Your Physical Distance<BR/>Your Resilience<BR/>Your Determination to not Participate<BR/>Your Protection of Judah from the cycle<BR/>Your Steps to Preserve your Sanity<BR/><BR/>Serenity and Strength are gifts from this that you will give yourself. <BR/><BR/>I am so so so very proud of every purposeful step you make in this effort. <BR/><BR/>I am here for you, and sending you all of my best thoughts. caravinson@hotmail.comCarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679741742125922220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-86030589394633195822007-11-29T22:58:00.000-08:002007-11-29T22:58:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this now......I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this now...especially when you are in the process of transition and settling in. I agree with the others. You do not deserve this abuse. I'm proud of you for knowing this. I hope that your father finds truth and humility soon... It truly is not your job to hold their pieces together, although I'm sorry they are falling apart just as you had feared. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there, E. You are a strong woman, stronger than I'm sure you sometimes feel. Hold on to your boys...I know you have found wholeness in this unit, as I'm sure you are now.... I'll be praying for your heart, and this relationship.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05205397074842767177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-137895306478962842007-11-29T20:20:00.000-08:002007-11-29T20:20:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry you are going through this, but maybe...I'm so sorry you are going through this, but maybe he needs this -- to be broken with the realization that you are not his empire and he is no longer your ruler. I pray that pride wouldn't get in the way allowing God to build him back up. <BR/><BR/><BR/>You don't deserve his abuse. Sandra said it all beautifully and I don't have anything more to add, except that you, Chris and Judah are a beautiful family, and yes...Judah is growing up too fast for this.Lizzie W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12311001546601758721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-132302682775218102007-11-29T16:27:00.000-08:002007-11-29T16:27:00.000-08:00Family can bruise us so easily, maybe because we t...Family can bruise us so easily, maybe because we think we can let our guard down when we are with them. <BR/><BR/>I am sorry this is happening to you. I am sorry that more families can't function normally and not expect too much or push too hard. <BR/><BR/>Good for you for knowing when enough is enough and being strong enough to do what you have to do for you and your husband and son. <BR/><BR/>I hope that one day your father will see and know that he has a beautiful, smart, strong daughter and that he will be proud of you for drawig this line in the sand.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06521088520231972617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858646634633558251.post-84829585871082734482007-11-29T15:11:00.000-08:002007-11-29T15:11:00.000-08:00i cannot imagine how much this hurts or the frustr...i cannot imagine how much this hurts or the frustration. <BR/><BR/>families are us, but not us. so hard. especially as an older sister (me). sigh.Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07169282165749035808noreply@blogger.com